zambian men [why do they treat women like ***?]

i am a very pissed off zambian young woman who has been through an ordeal to last anyone a htousand years.  why is it that when you love a man he does not seem to care much about you and whne you don't he comes running after you?  i am very angry at the way zambian men are treating women.  there seems to be this gold rush for marriages.

i had been seing this guy for almost 9 months.  this guy i had rejected and avoided for four years for fear of what he just did to me recently which led to our break up.  this guy had nothing and was far from rich but i had always liked him i was not just sure about me as he struck me as a player and boy was i right.  he his just a lousy player and a cold coward.

i loved this guy and he walked all over me and treated me like dirt!! if he was not trying to change me he was complaining about me not listening to his non sense.  he wanted to turn me into something i am not. being with him was so much hard work as it was not about us but about impressing his friends.  that aint me.  i am who i am and what he was doing was actually killing my confidence.  but because i wanted it to work so much i tolerated his crap until he made me do something that could have costed me my life.

i was so broken and shattered then he even has the guts to come back to me and tell me that he loves me.  i am so pissed off with zambian men and how they treat us women.  i have tried to be decent and live a good life buit no!! they don't appreciate decent women.  they want the bimbos!!

i am so mad at they way men in thgis country seem to think they will treat women as they please!!  what? do you think we do not hurt?!! do you think we do not have hearts?!! SHAME on you!!! shame on you.  one day i will get my piece of the pie.  it hurts alot when someone you trully love ends up treating you like crap.  especially when they copme back and tell you how much they love you. did they not realize it then before the walked all over you?

ala mwandi i am telling you.  all of you creeps out their who do that you will surely get your one day. mark my words you will!!!

Nalema.

i dont know its crazy though do he live in america or zambia

im so sorry you went thru the hurt but dont let your guards down because if he took you for granted once he will do it again.. more than likely whoever had his eye wasnt what he thought it would turn out to be and now running to you question is you open that door.. it will happen again.. you know what i mean

Ala ba mac ine kwati namano yalampela. ifyo aleingililamo ati fyalachitika ifyo tachitile kukutampa finshi? problem tabayako na ku church thats why they behave inhuman.  you guys think that you are untoucheable but just you wait and see.  for all the tears that i am crying you will all get what is coming to you.  he almost ruined my life and pretended like he loved me when he just wanted to get some.  ok no problem he got it but my tears will not go unnoticed.  there is no excuse or reason for breaking someones heart.  if you are not serious with them, why do you persue them?  i suppose its the same urge that makes a dog chase a car when it has no intention of driving it.

ala we are all repaid with the same measure we treat others.  let it be known that i will cry on behalf of all the disappointed women.  enough is enough. you guys need to realise that the way you are going about living your lives hurts people.  ala ine nalifulilwe.  nokumulowa nganalimulowa.  but i thought against it.  thank God i did coz i have now gotten closer to God and i have forgiven him for the terrible thing he did to me.  but that oes not mean i will allow him in my life to kill me this time around.  ala lesa nimalyotola.  all of you PLAYAZ out there will definately get yours.

who gave you authority to play other people's children like dolls?  ala you will all regret your stupidity one way or another i am telling you.  i might just be sounding like a bitter girl but mark my words.  tepatali you will get your payment someday.

 Dear Nalema,

I know you are hurt but you need to let it go and move on. You are spending way too much of your precious energy on him. Are you in school or working? try to do either and focus your energy on your career or school life. See how you can better improve your life and chalk him off your list as a bad experience. Don't give in to another man and begin to ask God for your husband. If God has to manufacture one for you because there are no decent men around then so be it. Give your requests to God, repent of your sins and live a righteous life. You have to admit that you did have a bad feeling about him and went against your wishes. It is your own fault for not listening to God in the first place so rather than blame him for your mistake, thank God you got out of it before it got more out of hand. Men are hunters by nature and they will persue their prey until they conquor, once conquored, they move to the next target of resistance. Only a man who is truly filled with the Holy Spirit has a chance to make a good husband because he will fear God more than his own will. Everybody is subject to temptation but when you are focused on God's will temtation can be overcome. You are in danger of becoming a player yourself because of your bad experience. I can tell you now, unless you commit to fully giving your life to God, it will be hard to find true happiness. Even if it means doing without a man for a long while and watching your friends get married around you, trust me, waiting for the right man, God's given husband, will be worth the wait. I have made mistakes in my time but I blame myself not anyone else and when I was ready to leave, I did. Look ahead of you not behind and plan a beautiful life for yourself. If you love you, love what you do and live a positive life, good things will be drawn to you because you will be open to them. Strive to be happy.

 Looks like you are really hurt,a word of advice don't judge everyone the way you are judged it could be you may be the problem or you look for problems.There is a saying in Bemba ' ichi bwela enuma chilalya' or only a dog eats it's vomit, so if this player was after you for four years and after he got what ever it is he got he probably was getting back to you.

Are you looking for a rich guy?or someone with assets?well how many women have eyes trained on such men?if you really want someone to trust,look first from inside yourself then the search will end once you do that and don't show that you are deperate